Humiliation Play - Breaking it down because it was asked for

Humiliation Play - Breaking it down because it was asked for



In one of the local groups they were looking for answers about why people like humiliation play. It ended up been such a long answer.. I turned it into a blog. Enjoy

What do you consider humiliation play?
For Me humiliation play is a scene in which the bottom is going to not be but feel humiliated. I am making the statement of difference there because what is humiliating for one person may not be for another. Humiliation play is based around peoples fears, secret shames, and also a sexual arousal from been treated this way.

There is so many areas to humiliation play this a very hard one to put into such a blanket term. My wife for example is shy but she loves to be hooded, gagged, and bound and displayed in a humiliating way and shown to strangers. While I comment on how wet she is and check it as such. She hates it but at the same time is amazingly aroused by it. That is certainly a mild example of humiliation play and I would say the most common. For many it involves dressing a partner up who is ashamed to go out to a play party or in public in something they consider humiliating or embarrassing but they get off on it. Therefore it is a mutual enjoyment with the Dominant partner enabling them to either live it out or by knowing them well enough that it will bring them huge levels of sexual arousal.

Humiliation play also includes other areas such as cuckold play and cuckold racial play. Where a male partner usually is been humiliated for his sexual inadequacies by his partner having sexual relations with others in front of him while laughing at him or as you can put together adding in the race play element.

Humiliation sessions I have done can include focuses on sexual ability, genital size, lack of masculinity, size, race, age, intellect and more I can not think of. I also enjoy incorporating humiliation play into other sessions for example giving someone an enema and watching them making them very uncomfortable and embarrassed. For others it might be laughing at been able to over power them, pushing them to the ground, pulling your panties aside and pissing on them before gagging them with the used panties. The only limit to humiliation play is your imagination.

Humiliation play is also very psychological, preparing a good scene requires extensive knowledge of a partners psyche or many many questions, with careful listening. A lot of people who enjoy humiliation especially in men trace it back to a child hood incident. A female bullying them in school, in one case a group of girls peeing on a boy at a boarding school.. The early experiences while humiliating became a later sexual outlet that became exciting. The problem for most is finding someone who can one feel comfortable enough humiliating them, understand where the humiliation derives from and who can execute the scene without stopping because they feel bad or not been able to be sadistically nasty enough. It definitely takes a certain kind of Dominant or top to do humiliation play at a heavier level. One because it involves doing and saying things most would never consider doing to another person, and two because if you are going to play at a heavy level there is a whole area of risk assessment, preparation and the person has to be doing it as a mutually consensual experience not one the other is unprepared for or does not want.

Why are you attracted to humiliation play?
I am attracted to humiliation play because as My profile states I am an extreme Sadist. I enjoy psychological scenes that break down layers, I love the enjoyment of been able to be the bitch who can see into your thoughts, know what your thinking and turn you into a sniveling mess of a man who is at the same time sporting a rock hard erection :P or as in My wifes case.. soaking through the bloody mattress.

What are the risks or other consequences we should be aware of before participating in humiliation play?
Humiliation play is not something for beginners. I think the idea of young Dominants or Tops or even older ones deciding it is a great way to show off their new slave by using them in humiliating ways in public, in front of friends or in sessions is a very bad one. Humiliation play can have huge consequences both short and long term that if you are not willing to consider, be aware of and take care of, then you are crossing the line into abuse.

Before starting any humiliation session or any session involving any elements of it the first thing to explore is the persons history, past traumas, and how they feel about things like their education, looks, abilities as a slave etc. If you do no do this short term you can trigger a emotional meltdown and a severe mood swing which could be very dangerous and hard to deal with. Long term a slave could keep doing it to please the Dominant or top but it could be slowly eating away at them, destroying them more and more inside. Breaking a person like that mentally and to the soul is not the same thing as breaking in a slave. Nor is it the same as breaking someone in humiliation play or pain play where the tears come flooding as a cathartic release. There must as in all things be balance.

A person who loves you or who respects you and is a trustworthy play partner can healthily participate in humiliation scenes with you. If they know you, care for your feelings, ask questions and actually listen you are on the start to finding someone safe to explore humiliation play. If on the other hand they want to write pig whore all over your body and make you drink their piss for their friends amusement or the internets without having a relationship with you. One they are abusing you, and two you are the kind of person I would never do humiliation play with I would instead recommend you to a therapist, explain why and help you try to understand where I am coming from with My experiences.

There is 2 kinds of people who seek to be humiliated, those who get genuine enjoyment from the kink and abuse. Those who have poor self esteem, mental health issues and are easy prey for predators.

Does humiliation play require an extra level of aftercare?
This depends like all aftercare some people require lots some people seem to be just fine without it, some go years without needing it and then one day have a session where they do. If as above you are either in a healthy loving relationship, or two playing with a person who is humiliating you because you both enjoy it then you will as with all after care be able to look at the person sit down and talk for a bit, check in on the areas you focused on and then make the judgment of whether they need more time or reassurance or if they just had a blast and are great. Still it is an area where I take extra care to repeat that if in the next day or week any feelings of depression or mood changes occur to be in contact immediately. This is the same for all play where there is more psychological than physical involved.

What are some humiliation scenes (either that you have heard of or that you desire)?
I think i have covered this :)

Does this fall into the consensual/non-consent realms? Or does it only occur (for you) after careful planning and negotiation before each scene?
Again I think i have covered this also.. If it is a loving consensual relationship and it is not an agreed apon hard limit then no reason why it should be considered non consensual. In casual ones it requires careful negotiation to make sure lines are not crossed.

Is all humiliation play degradation play as well?
What is degradation play?
Degradation
1.
the act of degrading.
2.
the state of being degraded.

Synonyms
2. humiliation, disgrace, dishonor, debasement.

Humiliation
1.
an act or instance of humiliating or being humiliated.
2.
the state or feeling of being humiliated; mortification.

Synonyms
2. degradation, dishonor.

No difference for Me except I feel that degradation in BDSM refers to harder scenes.
Hope I was able to help.
Feel free to ask questions.
Mistress Venom

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ENJOY...

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Mistress Venom & Her submissive wife Live FemDomme Show

Just to let My readers know first... My beautiful wife is arriving in town tomorrow and W/we plan to put on a live show twice a week before She returns to the US. If you are interested in making a booking, there is 6 places available for each show, call Me on 0211797035 to arrange a place. Discretion is a necessity, My wife will not be showing her face here, i will post some edited photos of Her later this evening. She is very petite a tiny size 6, with dark brown / black straight hair (occasionally curly). Beautiful chest and light olive skin. She is beautiful tied and bound in sensual rope or adoring at My feet. It will be a show not to miss for the true BDSM lover. Two beautiful ladies One Dominant and one submissive and so naturally intune as part of a lifestyle. The show will be approx 60 -90 mins and cost of $250 per person.

There is also the possibility of making bookings with My wife, she will not be doing ANY bookings alone. However if you would like to be co-dominated with a beautiful submissive female who could be ordered to give you some relief at the end of whatever ordeals I make you go through, call Me and let Me know of your interest, My regular clients will have a preference. I want her introduction to My professional lifestyle to be a good one, others will have to satisfy Me that they will behave appropriately. She has various fantasies she would like to fufill and with the right clients I will allow it. My fee is as usual, her fee will be $220 an hour additional. She is very sensual and believes She could give the worlds best sexual service after O/our years of training... You will just have to see..

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Transitioning of maid to a feminized slave

Maid signed 2 weeks ago a 15 page contract, passing control of every aspect of life over to Mistress Venom. It was with the relief only a true submissive can feel that the name was carefully signed at the necessary parts of the slavery contract. A video recording of the signing was made.

"The live in slave faces a stark life with the minimal of belongings and responsibilities. This life though while tedious and enforced with punishments, is a freedom from the stress of struggling to submit totally. Finally the slave knows its place in life; the slave knows only to obey orders. The owner provides for all material needs and ensures the safety and well being. The only feeling for the slave is joy in serving their Owner and peace in knowing their true purpose in life is now in place." - Thoughts on BDSM - Mistress Venom.

Weeks punishments:

- Spilled bleach on bathmat - replacement required and 15 strokes with a thin rattan cane.
- Forgot to replace DVD in case - 1.5 hour walk to shop to return DVD correctly.
- Terrible application of nail polish - 10 strokes with heavy wooden paddle.
- Tasting food before Mistress finished Her Meal - 20 strokes with a rubber hose slapper.
- Failure to follow instructions from Mistress's friend - 10 strokes with whip.

Instructions in home maintenance.
1. Rise at 6am and complete toilette.
2. Prepare bathroom for Mistress's bathing and hair dressing.
3. Dry dishes from evening before.
4. Prepare breakfast of oatmeal no sugar and only low fat milk.
5. Wake Mistress and present a cup of coffee, ensure Mistress has woken, bring her phone, laptop and diary.
6. Wipe down all windows in upstairs of Mistress's home and strip and remake Her bed.
7. Take dictation of all cleaning to be completed that day.
8. Clear home of rubbish and recycling and collect mail and take out bins if it is that day.
9. Attend to duties noted. Remember to drink 8 glasses of water during the day and mix a protein shake to be drunk at lunch time along with the prepared meal from Mistress that adheres to the strict diet in place for the maids better health.
10. Remove Mistress's shoes on return from Her work, remove clothing and start a wash cycle. Provide Mistress with a home gown for Her comfort and fetch her a green tea or herbal tea of her choice.
11. Attend to any wants and needs of mistress for the evening. Lines or punishments will happen at this time if time allows. When Mistress has bathed, bathroom cleaned and She has retired for the evening THEN maid may, "shower, shave all body hair, remove makeup, bleach and clean bathroom, retire to bed after any additional chores or punishments are finished with alarm set to rise in morning.
- Additional rules
Maid must follow day uniform and nighttime wear at all times.
Maid must not stray from the strict diet designed by Mistress Venom, this diet and exercise program has been presented to maids GP for approval and a full bloods run. (Do not place a slave on a diet or rigorous exercise plan until an all clear is given by a physician. A excellent Dominant is aware that it is their place to ensure the health and well being of all Owned creatures.)
Maid must follow makeup and hair rules.
Maid must take daily vitamins as set out in list from Mistress.
Maid must always stop at a doorway and wait for permission to enter a room.
Maid must maintain punishment book and day to day diary.

WHEN

"A trained slave has to do exactly as she is told every time, perfectly or the slave must face the consequences of disobedience, / poor performance. Mistress's customers are their for Her income and the slaves submission is to be used to assist in any way with Her Owners business."

-WHEN-

When Mistress tells bitch to jump, the only answer is, "Yes Mistress how high?"
When Mistress tells bitch to open her legs to be fucked the only answer is,"yes Mistress is that wide enough?"
When Mistress tells bitch she will have needles pierce her tits the only answer is, "Yes Mistress how many?"
When Mistress tells bitch she is to be beaten the only answer is, "Yes Mistress how many lashes or cuts?"
When Mistress tells bitch to submit to an enema the only answer is, "Yes Mistress, how many litres and how long should she hold it in for?"
When Mistress tells bitch she is to be placed in bondage the only answer is, "Yes Mistress for how long?"
When Mistress tells bitch to attend to her at a certain time and date, the only answer is, "Yes Mistress at what time and seamed stockings or not?"

Living the life - Thoughts on 24-7 slavery

As I lost My old blog, it is time to begin updating this one with more regularity. I have had a busy couple of weeks as I moved homes, this explains the lack of posts. I am sure i will soon make up for the lack of new content.

As some know, I have had My slavebitch maxine in training for 14 months now and are already 2 months into the continuation of our previous contract. The journey has been a interesting one, and it has been a pleasure to Own a slavebitch who's masochism is so in tune with My sadism. The journey has taken us beyond the edge, and many new humiliation techniques have been thrust upon My bitch to increase bitches usefulness.

I have recently taken back My maid this time under a formal year long contract. The maid is in a full time live in situation with Myself and training has only just begun.. *grin*

A combination of old fashioned slave training along with My particular sense of humor and evil is used to push the both of them further and further. I hope a year from now I will be announcing both contract renewals and have seen especially the maid travel down a road to the most fucked up depravity.. I am confident in this as My purely submissive and gentle maid confessed a promise to allow Me to vomit on the maid for My own enjoyment. Those kind of statements show Me there is so much potential in My latest belonging.

So this post.. As a Pro Domina, I feel it important to emphasize that this is My lifestyle and I am lucky to work doing what I love. It is also in the interest of creating a recorded time line of events and training so that half yearly reviews of depravity in My slaves can be compiled. So keep a look at for thoughts on the training of maxine and maid (jess to be).

Mistress V.